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Mrs Just a step mom Not just a step mom Jul 24, 2012 10:30 PM As it sits im a 36 yr old step mom of 4 children, foster mom of 1 and a step mom still to a previous step son from a past marriage. And also a mother to 1 deceased son.  But im more than that. I am a step child and an adopted child. I have a mother and father, adopted dad and a step dad. I am an only child but have 3 half sisters one half brother, two adopted brothers, step sister and two step brothers. And im sure if I could talk to my father id find out there were more. Now with all that I face a day to day struggle with people telling me im wrong! Im not a mother. That I need to go have a family of my own. I am called names daily, bashed, trashed talked, slandered and humiliated by my step childrens MOTHERS, my once friends, my IN LAWS and so many more. When did adults become so cruel? I am a good person. I open my home and my heart to all until proven that I need not to. I just dont get it anymore! My children no matter which one they are they love me, yet are forced to choose between me and their birth moms! Who does this? What gain is there torturing a child to choose? My parents did this and it was horrible. I watched my father forget I was even there, then my own mother walked out leaving me with a man who at most times made me feel like I was just an obligation. Soon after their divorce he got custody of me....I was broken! Two failed abusive marriages later and I found my other half. Yes he has 4 children from two different women. I accepted that. Treated them as my own. Loved them like my own. Yet im treated like an outcast by his family and friends. I recently took on the challenge of a 16 yr old foster child. Now im told im brown nosing the system to make it seem like im a good person! WHAT? Since last October I started a page on facebook, called "Just a Step Parent?", I have joined many Fathers Rights Groups, anything I can to help others in my situation or ones similar. Some days I find peace but most I cry myself to sleep wishing I had the answers. I have lived one hecka life been places, seen things....but the level of evils I have seen from more and more bio moms is astounding! Thank you for letting me share this, I truly needed a place to just talk even if no ones listening.
Socialberry I am picking on the step daughter Mar 8, 2010 8:18 PM So my husband feels guilty for putting his children threw a divorce and for the crazy drug addicted ex wife. So he lets his 14 yr old daughter have what ever she wants. Do what ever she wants. Oh and no chores or responsibilities. She is getting F's and D's in school. She has missed 17 days of school. She runs away when at her Mom's. She dates 18 yr old boys. My husband is a truck driver so it is up to me to deal with all of this. When she is at our home. Every other week. She goes to school and is well behaved. I get at least one call from him every week to please go and pick her up she is fighting with her mom. I go and it is a nightmare. No matter what happens I am the bad guy. I make her clean her room, do her home work, feed the dogs. If I complain about her being lazy and not getting good grades, I am and always have been picking on her. We are moving 2000 miles away to get away from this woman. Who says she will let the daughter come with us. 4 wks away from move and husband has still not gotten any paper work signed. Every time Mom is kicked out of yet another apt. I say lets go for custody. He says he dose not want his daughter to think he is taking her away from her mom. Because that is what mom has told her he will do. When will this end. How is it possible that a crack head turned pill popper can have so much power over a family. She actually told me my husband is going to take her with him on the move and leave me. This all in front of her current husband. When I looked at him he said take her. I know in my heart the only hope my step daughter has of not turning out like her mom and on drugs is to get her away from her. My husband is a lazy parent and uses bribes to get her to do what he wants. I always tell her the truth, and hold her accountable for things. I also have shown her how to cook. We enjoy doing this. She talks to me and we respect each other. But she lies and manipulates like her mom. She know it dose not work on me, which is why I think she respects me and we can talk. I always tell her that her mother loves her but has a hard time showing it. She is getting older so it has gotten easier with her but not my husband or the ex. Do I stop fighting with my husband and let things be, or do I continue to treat the step in the same manner I did when my daughter was her age? Which I really don't do, my daughter had a chore list every day and was not aloud to do anything unless she did her home work and kept her grades up. I feel depressed and alone. I am moving and leaving my daughter ( 20 and on her own). Our hole lives have revolved around my step daughter and her mother. Second reason to move is stepson, lives with grand parents. Retarded due to drug use during pregnancy. Grandma cant take care of him any more. He is 16 yrs old and will never be able to read write or even go with out a diaper. another, the main reason to hate the ex.
5Staci5 I feel like I am going crazy!!!! Jul 9, 2008 11:49 AM This step mom thing is new to me. I feel soooo overwhelmed. My fiances ex is insane, and the more I try to understand the more I am confused. I never know what her next move is and I am constanly being caught off guard. I feel extremly out of the loop lately and at times I almost feel like "the other woman" I feel left out and like a third wheel in my own home. This all might just be PMS or adjusting to my new life. Who knows, I am hoping I will get over it soon. I feel as if this is taking a huge toll on our relationship. I am frusterated and can't express why. I expressed my feelings today after a myspace comment was left. I stated if the shoe was on the other foot and one of my ex's was leaving cutesy little photos and old inside jokes and stories he would feel pretty bad and come un-glued. He said true but she is't just an ex she is my kids mom. ARGHHHHHHH. Am I being dramatic?? Please tell me if I am! Please give me some advise before I run this otherwise perfect relationship into the ground.
Moxy Margs Stepmothers! Answer this questionnaire and let your voice be heard! Jun 16, 2008 10:26 AM We are currently taking submissions for a book written for Stepmothers, by Stepmothers. You can see our previous post in this group for a detailed description of the book. If you would like to be included in this wonderful project, please fill out this questionnaire and email it back (in a word document) to evilstepmomsunite@gmail.com. Thanks and we look forward to hearing from you!! _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ Submission Questionnaire: Stepmothers and their Stepchildren evilstepmothersunite@gmail.com The Stepchildren 1. How long have you been a Stepmother? 2. How many Stepchildren do you have? 3. How many times a month do you see your Stepchildren? Do they live with you? 4. How old are your Stepchildren? 5. On a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being the worst and 10 the best), how would you rate your relationship with your Stepchildren? 6. Describe some funny comments and/or conversations that you’ve had with your Stepchildren. 7. What is your most memorable experience involving your Stepchildren? 8. What is the most challenging part of being a Stepmother? 9. What advice do you have for Stepmothers in dealing with their Stepchildren? The Ex-Wife 1.On a scale of 1 to 10 (1 being the worst and 10 the best), how would you rate your relationship with the ex-wife (mother of the children)? 2. When you are in the presence of the ex-wife, how would you describe your emotions? 3. Do you have any “horror-stories” involving the ex-wife? If so, please describe. 4. Do you have any humorous stories involving the ex-wife? If so, please describe. 5. How do you deal with your emotions surrounding the ex-wife? Do you have any vices? 6. What advice do you have for Stepmothers in dealing with the ex-wives? _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ First Name: Last Initial: City/State: *If you have any artwork, poetry, or jokes that focus on being a Stepmother, please feel free to attach it to this form. If your submission is selected to be published, you will be notified with further questions. Thanks very much and we look forward to reviewing your submission! Evilstepmothersunite@gmail.com
Moxy Margs Let your voice be heard Stepmoms!!!! Jun 3, 2008 1:36 PM Are you an "evil" Stepmother? Had a wild encounter with a crazy ex-wife? Are your weekly child visitation drop-offs anything but drama free? Well Stepmoms, we want to hear from you! We are compiling stories, jokes, advice, testimonials, and poems from Stepmoms around the country for a new book dedicated to (who else) Stepmoms! This book will serve as an aid to Stepmoms who are in need of a good laugh, cry, or who just need to know that they aren't alone! Being a Stepmom can be rewarding, but it also has it's moments (sometimes more than you could have ever imagined). If you are interested in being a part of this rewarding project, please email us one or more of the following: -Advice for new (or veteran) Stepmoms -Jokes about ex-wifes, being a Stepmom, or Stepkids -Any experiences or stories you may have had with an ex-wife or your Stepkids -Poems you've written about being a Stepmom -Artwork focused on being a Stepmom Our email address is evilstepmomsunite@gmail.com. With your emails, please include your first name and last initial, your city and state, and a good number for us to reach you. We may contact you with any questions or clarifications that may arise. Thanks for your contribution! Keywords: Stepmothers, stepmoms, support groups, books, publishing, writing gigs, Stepkids, ex-wives, short stories

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